Yes, I know moving on is hard. Whether moving on from a toxic relationship or moving on from a friendship you never thought would end.

Yes, moving on is a struggle. I get that. You have those moments where you think about who was right, who was wrong. 

Yes, moving on takes time. You think about those last moments when that special relationship ended. How hard it was to deal with hearing nasty thoughts from the other person and having those same thoughts creeping up in your head and saying it out loud as well. Those real words that were buried deep down in the heart. That battle of words. 

Then you move on to those moments where you reminisce the goods times you had, the sad you had, and those last moments that were ugly and dirty. Your mind keeps drifting off from those last moments you spent with that person to those happy experiences you both shared together.

You keep questioning yourself. What went wrong? Were you wrong? Were they wrong? Were you both wrong?

Yes, we all have those times. It might go on for days, weeks, and months. Even a year.

But I’m here to tell you. Yes, life happens. Those almost perfect relationships end. Those toxic relationships and friendships end. 

And everything will be okay. Life will go on. You’ll find more friends who you can learn to trust. You’ll find more love interests. Yes, it might not be the same. But every relationship is unique and different in their own ways.

Yes, moving on is tough. But here’s a reminder: the earth keeps rotating on its axis, and life keeps continuing without looking back. And so should you. Yes, it’s easy for me to say this. And no, I’m not saying it is easy to move on. 

People have different ways of moving on. Some people move on easily by understanding there are more important essential things in life. More current and future relationships to strengthen. More current friendships to help you get through your struggles. Some people take time to move on because it is tough to let go of a person who has been in your life and impacted you. In an instant with a snap of the fingers. Some people never move on. They become stuck in the past, and it eventually eats them.

I can tell you from experience it has been difficult to let go of those relationships and friendships that I have treasured dearly. I’ve tried to change myself to fit in the mold of the perfect relationship. I’ve done many things to help sustain the almost falling apart relationship, but it eventually comes down.

It’s been tough in that I try to build up fronts, putting up a facade that everything will be okay, but I know deep down, nothing was okay. All these thoughts would linger. Thoughts of joy, happiness, and pain. 

From these experiences, I know that if something goes wrong the next time, I have some insight in dealing with it. First, I would try to forget about it. Yes, these thoughts and questions will still linger in my head, but I have to force myself to preoccupy myself with essential things. Essential things like how much work or tasks I will accomplish. Because as I said before, life goes on. The world keeps spinning. If you can’t move on, how are you going to survive when everything is moving toward the future and not the past? Eventually, you know you have to move on just as how life moves on.

Don’t let all those sad thoughts preoccupy you. Because if you can’t let go of something that irks you, it will eventually hold you back. Hold you back from what your purpose is. Hold you back from what you can offer to the world. Hold you back from all the beautiful relationships and friendships you have and will have. Hold you back from what makes you, you. 

I’m not saying to move on really fast. Yes, you can think about that broken relationship or friendship once in awhile, but DO NOT let it get in the way of things. In the way of your goals and dreams. In the way of your purpose in life.

Think of how this experience is a life lesson. How it shapes you. Shapes your experiences and ways of dealing with issues. Shapes you to be a different person. Shapes you to be a better form of you.

Do not let this toxic relationship or friendship overpower or take control of you. Do not let it refrain you from starting new relationships or prevent you from opening up your heart. Let it be a reminder. Let it be an experience to help shape you to be a better person.

And lastly, don't forget your support group. Your friends and family will be there for you during your highest highs and lowest lows. They will be great supporters to cheer you on when you need it the most. Especially when you're moving on.

I'm here for you as well. 

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